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Talking about our feelings is an important step in self-awareness and emotional health. It helps us express what’s going on inside and allows us to connect with others. However, many people find that simply talking about their feelings – even in therapy or deep conversations – doesn’t always bring lasting change. The reason for this? Our emotions are often deeply rooted in the subconscious mind, a place far beyond the reach of words.
While verbalising emotions can provide temporary relief, if we don’t address the subconscious patterns that shape those feelings, we may find ourselves stuck in the same cycles of anxiety, fear, or sadness. To create lasting change, we need to dive deeper – into the subconscious – to release and transform the hidden beliefs and unresolved traumas driving our emotional responses.
In this post, we’ll explore why talking about feelings isn’t enough, how the subconscious mind influences our emotions, and why working with the subconscious is key to deep, meaningful healing.
- The Limits of Talking About Feelings
When we talk about our feelings, we engage the conscious mind – the part of us that is logical, rational, and aware. This is important because it allows us to process emotions and gain clarity on what we’re experiencing. For example, discussing feelings of sadness after a breakup can help us better understand our sense of loss, and sharing anxiety about a job interview can allow us to gain perspective on our fears.
But while this conscious processing is helpful, it’s often only the tip of the iceberg. Our conscious thoughts and feelings represent just a small portion of what’s going on beneath the surface. In many cases, the root of our emotions lies hidden in the subconscious mind, where old patterns, beliefs, and memories reside. Unless we address these deeper layers, simply talking about emotions can feel like addressing symptoms without treating the underlying cause.
- The Subconscious: Where Feelings Are Born
The subconscious mind is the powerhouse behind most of our behaviours, reactions, and emotional responses. It holds the key to understanding why we feel the way we do, but it operates outside of our conscious awareness. This means that, while we may be able to talk about what we’re feeling, the “why” often remains elusive.
Consider this: if you find yourself feeling anxious every time you speak up in meetings, talking about that anxiety might bring some relief, but it won’t explain why you feel that way in the first place. The root of your anxiety might be an old, subconscious belief that was formed in childhood – perhaps you were ridiculed for speaking out, leading you to internalise the idea that it’s safer to stay quiet. Until that belief is uncovered and transformed, the anxiety will likely persist, no matter how much you talk about it.
The subconscious mind is also where we store unresolved trauma. These traumas may not always be consciously remembered, but they leave imprints on our emotional landscape, influencing how we feel, react, and even perceive the world. Talking alone rarely reaches these hidden layers. To make real progress, we need to engage the subconscious and address the root causes of our emotional pain.
- Why Working with the Subconscious Is Essential for Healing
To truly change how we feel, we must dive deeper than the surface-level conversations about our emotions. This means working with the subconscious mind, where long-held patterns and beliefs are stored. By doing so, we can shift the programming that drives our emotional responses, leading to more profound and lasting transformation.
Here’s why working with the subconscious is crucial:
- a) Subconscious Beliefs Shape Our Emotional Reactions
Much of what we feel on a day-to-day basis is shaped by subconscious beliefs formed in early childhood. These beliefs are often so ingrained that we’re not even aware of them. For example, if you grew up in an environment where love was conditional on achievement, you may have subconsciously internalised the belief that you’re only worthy when you succeed. As an adult, this belief can manifest as anxiety, self-doubt, or perfectionism.
Talking about feelings of inadequacy can be a start, but to change these deep-seated beliefs, we need to engage with the subconscious. Techniques like RTT and hypnotherapy can help access and rewire the subconscious mind, allowing us to release old beliefs and create healthier, more empowering ones.
- b) Emotional Triggers Stem from Subconscious Patterns
Have you ever had an intense emotional reaction that seemed out of proportion to the situation at hand? This is often the result of subconscious emotional triggers. For instance, someone might become overwhelmed with fear during a minor disagreement with their partner – not because of the argument itself, but because it subconsciously reminds them of the unresolved abandonment they experienced in childhood.
Talking about these triggers might provide insight, but until the subconscious patterns driving them are addressed, the triggers will continue to arise. Techniques such as RTT and Somatic Experiencing, which directly work with the body and mind’s subconscious memory storage, can be powerful tools to release the hold these triggers have over us.
- c) The Subconscious Controls Our Habits and Behaviours
Many of the habits and behaviours that contribute to our emotional state are controlled by the subconscious mind. If you’ve ever tried to break a habit – whether it’s emotional eating, procrastination, or negative self-talk – you’ve likely realised that willpower and talking about it can only take you so far. This is because habits are deeply rooted in the subconscious.
Working with the subconscious to reprogram these habits can create lasting change. RTT is a valuable technique that can help shift subconscious patterns, allowing us to replace unhealthy behaviours with more supportive ones.
- Conclusion: Moving Beyond Talk for Lasting Emotional Freedom
Talking about our feelings is an important part of emotional healing, but it’s only the first step. To create lasting change, we need to work with the subconscious mind, where the roots of our emotional patterns lie. The subconscious holds the keys to understanding why we feel what we feel and, more importantly, how to release and transform those feelings.
By addressing the subconscious directly – through RTT and hypnotherapy – we can release old traumas, reprogram limiting beliefs, and create new, empowering emotional patterns. This approach not only helps us heal at a deeper level but also frees us to live a more conscious, joyful, and fulfilling life.
Remember, healing isn’t just about talking – it’s about transforming. To truly move forward, we must go beyond words and into the depths of our subconscious mind, where real change happens.
