Many of us believe that the hardest part of any major life change is getting out: leaving the relationship, quitting the unfulfilling job, closing the chapter that no longer fits. And yes, that step can be monumental. But what hardly anyone talks about is what comes next:
the space between getting out… and getting on.
That strange, disorienting, emotionally draining no-man’s-land where we’re not where we were, but we’re also nowhere new.
It’s the place where so many of us get stuck.
Not because we’re weak. Not because we aren’t trying. But because something inside us hasn’t caught up with the change we made on the outside.
The “Holding Pattern”: When We Leave, But Don’t Arrive
A surprising number of us manage to break free from something painful or limiting, only to find ourselves circling the runway – in a holding pattern of life. Maybe we:
- leave a relationship… but never attract a healthier one.
- walk away from a draining business… but can’t commit to or create a meaningful new venture.
- exit a job we hate… but drift into another version of the same.
- stay in something loveless or unfulfilling because the alternative feels too frighteningly empty.
We “get out” yes. But we don’t “get on”. We remain trapped in the in-between land: neither where we were, nor where we want to be!
One client left a long-term marriage after his wife was unfaithful, but years later found himself tolerating a ‘friendship’ that was emotionally unfulfilling and empty. He wasn’t alone yet he was still lonely. Yes, he wasn’t stuck in the old life, but he also wasn’t living a new one either – he was in the ‘wilderness’, betwixt and between.
This is what being lost in the wilderness looks like. It’s the land of almost-change.
The place where our external world has shifted, but our internal programming has not.
Why We Get Stuck Mid-Journey
We think that if someone has the courage to leave something painful, they’d naturally rise into something better. But human psychology isn’t that linear.
Most people get stuck because of one core truth: we can’t create a new life while operating from old beliefs.
Even after we’ve left the environment, our subconscious is still running the old script:
- “Who am I without that relationship”?
- “Maybe this is all I deserve”.
- “What if nothing better comes”?
- “I don’t trust myself to choose differently”.
- “I can’t picture anything else”.
- “It’s safer to stay in the familiar, even if it hurts”.
These beliefs create a kind of energetic fog: the wilderness. In that fog, we settle for scraps, repeat patterns, or freeze entirely.
Consciously we say “I want more”, subconsciously we whisper “But I don’t believe I can have more”. And guess what: the subconscious always wins.
How We Accidentally Attract More of the Same
You’ve probably heard the saying: “If you tolerate something, the universe will keep sending it to you”. It’s not punishment, it’s simply resonance.
If a person still carries the belief:
- “I’m not worthy of real love”, we’ll attract partners who affirm it.
If deep down we think:
- “Success always ends badly” we’ll sabotage the next opportunity, or never pursue one.
If we’ve internalised:
- “Something better might not come”, we’ll cling to mediocre situations that drain us.
The universe isn’t deciding for us, our internal programming is!
We don’t attract what we want: we attract what we are ready to receive.
And many of us have only done half the work. We’ve changed our external circumstances, but not our inner-beliefs.
The Missing Piece: Faith, Worthiness, and Inner Permission
People who stall mid-journey often struggle with a few hidden blocks:
- Lack of self-belief
“I don’t trust myself to choose better.”
- Lack of internal worth
“Maybe I’m not deserving of more.”
- Lack of faith in the unknown
“What if nothing else shows up?”
- Lack of clarity
“I don’t know what I want next—how do I even ‘put my order into the universe’”?
- Deep subconscious imprints
Childhood messages, past failures, heartbreaks, or conditioning telling us to “play small”, “stay safe”, or “not want too much”.
These blocks act like invisible anchors and they keep you tied to the shore, even after you’ve untied the boat.
How RTT Helps Us Leave the “In-Between Land”
RTT works because it doesn’t just deal with symptoms or surface-level habits: it identifies and rewires the root cause driving the “stuckness”.
RTT helps us:
- Access the subconscious where the real blocks live
We’re guided safely to the memories, beliefs, and patterns that created the holding pattern in the first place.
- Understand the meaning the mind attached at the time
Our mind made decisions about love, success, rejection, or safety long ago. RTT helps us uncover them and finally update them.
- Break the link between past pain and present fear
Once the emotional imprint is released, the fear dissolves. We stop expecting the old outcome!
- Install new beliefs that align with our future, not our past
Confidence, worthiness, clarity, emotional freedom, and the internal permission to rise into something better.
- Shift our energetic signal
When our inner programming changes, what we attract changes. We stop settling. We start choosing. We start receiving.
RTT is not just about getting us out. It’s about getting us on: forward, upward and into the life that actually fits us.
When We Heal the Blocks, the Journey Continues
You were never meant to live in the in-between land. It’s not your final destination. It’s simply a sign that your external change needs an internal companion shift.
The moment you align your subconscious beliefs with your conscious desires, the wilderness evaporates, the holding pattern ends, the next chapter appears: not by force, but by resonance.
Because once you believe you deserve more…
You stop tolerating less.
And the universe always responds to that: let the miracles begin to happen!
Change your life, change your mind. Book a free discovery call with me at www.inspired-minds.com and let today be the start of your new life!